"Do you guys have any books here?"

Today was a pretty slow Monday morning, but I had just finished reading to the second grade class and was opening the inter-library loan bags when the door opened and someone came right in and asked the question, "Do you guys have any books here?" Bonnie went to help him, and I looked up to see a handsome man in a junky green sweatshirt with messy brown hair standing at the counter with a smirk on his face.

"Hey!! What're you doing here!" I was so excited I couldn't get my words out correctly, "Bonnie this is my TJ! I mean, this is my boyfriend TJ!"

It was a wonderful surprise. He was stopping in Conrad to get some maps for the pivot project he was going to be working on that day. He had to be out there in fifteen minutes but made a quick stop at the library to see if we had any books. Now that I think of it, he left without even looking.

This afternoon I was outside cleaning out the layers of dead leaves and overgrown trees. I have visions of what I would like to do in the backyard and I've already purchased many flower seeds. It is going to be a lot of work though and I'm not sure that I have that great of desire and dedication. Yet when I'm out there, I want to transform it. Well, my yard seemed to catch on to my dreams and has already surprised me by popping out dainty little yellow flowers all over the ground. Even in patches were there is no grass, the resilient flower found a way to produce a bundle together. They are always together, not just one flower by itself, but in a bunch. I can almost hear them talking to each other. I think they have high-pitched voices and cheerful things to say.

 If it was any other yard, I'm sure I would wonder at the flowers and why someone hadn't weeded them out from the grass. But I am understanding it to be a gesture of kindness and their funny bright faces don't bother me. Maybe it's an omen of great things to come in my little fenced-in yard.

Free Yellow Flowers

"You keep hanging out with us and we'll make an athlete out of you!"

It may take long in the making though....

Friday we received all the moisture a farmer's heart could desire for one day. The day before we finally had a good rain, but Friday was the first blizzard of the year. In Michigan one might say, "This blasted weather! Can't wait to go to Florida!" In Montana they say, "Can you believe this snow? Oh but we needed the moisture and I'll take any form I can get..." Anyway, I also like this because it gives the farmers some time off... so Friday TJ, his sister Robyn, her husband Chris, and I played basketball. At first I was dreading it because the night before TJ and I had played with a 4th and 6th grader and they both out-scored me. But after we started playing, it was a blast! Then I rolled my ankle. Crazy how fast that can happen. I walked it off for a little then we kept playing. It looks like a small softball, and isn't very stiff. I didn't know that walking it off helped, but if I had sat it would have stiffened up so quickly and I would've babied it because....well, because I can be a baby. 

Saturday was a beautiful day, fifty degrees and the snow was rapidly melting. I did a little bit of this and that. Figured out my student loans. Got depressed. Got UNdepressed because I remembered that God is my provider and nothing is overwhelming and I have a goal now to accomplish! Talked to my mom AND my sister, wonderful Saturday at that point already. TJ stopped by to deliver the Children's Church material and he headed inside to try to fix my bedroom door (that's an adventure in itself! He had to replace it because it was falling off its hinges, but it wouldn't close because it was just a tad too high. So I sanded and sanded and sanded using a power sander to make it fit. Well as soon as it was done, I shut the door and....it wouldn't close. Tried again and it just swung open. The latch wasn't the right size for the door. Ah home projects. I'm a big kid now.) While he was inside, I was outside, because that is what we do when we are alone. I cleaned out some trash from his car then started picking up the sticks in my front yard. After he left I went to grab the huge pile and take it to the back when I was startled by a black creature! A small cat with bright green eyes was staring up at me. "Oh hi Mr. Black Cat, shew." I don't like cats because of allergies and partly because I just don't like animals that much. But he wouldn't leave me alone! I took the sticks to the back and found a pile of feathers... I think Mr. Black Cat had been hungry. He kept rubbing against my pant leg. I could resist no longer and pet him. He was sweet and I could feel the purring motor through his rib cage. He was skinny, but he also had a collar and I was not going to take this thing in. 

The snoopy Mr. Black Cat

Well, Mr. Black Cat clearly needed friends and after I tidied up in the yard and went back inside, he was crawling on my railing, jumping on my window sill and scratching at my back door meowing so loudly I thought that the neighbors might think I was possessed! But I would not become that cat lady and simply ignored him. Eventually he went away, presumably back home. And that's the end, totally anti-climatic but right now I'm just cataloging the day and therefore am only half trying to make it all sound exciting. 

Marias Valley Golf Course

Later that day TJ called to see if I wanted to go golfing with Chris and Robyn. Golfing. That sport that has that tiny ball that supposed to go sailing through the air after receiving the blow from a large medal stick transferring power from your body straight into that tiny ball. And somehow its supposed to end up in a tiny hole. Eh, I'll watch for now, besides, my ankle was swollen, that's a legitimate excuse. Ankle or no ankle, I decided it would be more fun to tag along instead of have them all wait for me as I tried for the fifteenth time to get the ball out of the woods. But I will try it sometime. I've gone skiing and played basketball, helped herd cows and (surely there was something else slightly athletic....) well that is all I can think of. I don't mean to make myself sound prissy, I was just never the athletic type and it always took me forever to learn. Once I get passed the low-self esteem part, I really enjoy playing whatever, as long as its active. And it was yesterday that Chris made the comment after I tried to shoot at one hole. Oh if he had said that to my high school self I would've either glowed at the idea or shrunk back into a book. 

But who knows what this Montana Erin will someday do! 

"Yep, foliage is great." - Emily Steenbergh

Pretty sure she was getting a little tired of hearing, "Look how green it is Kathleen!" "Oh Emily, what's your growing zone? I can't believe how many flowers and trees grow here!" And occasionally Emily would respond to our constant comments, by, "Yeah, foliage - gotta have it!" Well foliage is a good word, so I'll give you that.

Our time is Tacoma was lovely, once I figured out that it's spelled with a c and not a k. The green though was truly beautiful. Kathleen and I drove from sunny, but brown Shelby, Montana and into bloomingly beautiful Tacoma, Washington. Lilac bushes, tulips, rhododendrons, dandelions (still flowers), cherry trees (or crabapple - we were undecided), hyacinths and flowers I couldn't name were in full bloom all around us. The homes were Victorian style with pristine landscaping and the water was so close you could touch it. One night we looked over the dock in Tacoma and stared at the depths of deep blue, water that flowed in from the Pacific Ocean. Since Kathleen has married a farmer, her appreciation for growth, rain, and growing zones has grown probably almost 100%. And I like to just jump on the bandwagon and pretend I know what all that means. Seriously though, there's something about living in a small town supported by farmers and hearing "We need the moisture," if a few snow flakes fall. Not to mock it though, I never realized how important rainfall and "moisture" really is. And I've only been here two months. Kathleen and I are also two among our friends that are in a pumpkin growing contest and therefore getting into gardening (Kathleen has been - this is new to me though) therefore we each have done some research to understand growing seasons, zones, nourishment and things of that nature (see that's a cop-out phrase that reflects my depth of knowledge on the subject). Anyway, all that being said, Tacoma was lovely and Kathleen and I appreciated it as much as a soul could.

Friday we toured a bit of Tacoma and craved and received Mexican. Saturday we hiked for two hours in the Cascade mountains and overlooked the little homes and viewed the mountains from a small opening in the trees as high as the trail would take us. We then hiked back down and played cards at Emily's friend's apartment - Euchre, a Michigan game. :) It was nice to see another face from Michigan, the land of our roots, and our conversation could lead to things we knew and people we loved. That night again we craved Mexican and nachos was a just reward (only $5 for a dome-like plate of fried tortillas soaked in beans and sour cream). Sunday we walked to her church then sampled some Legendary donuts on our way to cloudy Seattle. Pike's Market was a whirl of booths and balsamic oil samples, and flowers and more flowers. We saw the first Starbucks and it looked like the trillionth Starbucks I saw on the corner a mile down. We tasted delicious fish and chips while we watched the chef and his entourage serve up fried fish, grilled salmon, shrimp cocktail, and clam chowder, all while yelling and laughing and trying to look cool. But they were kinda cool, just because their food was so good. I was not super impressed by the gum wall, though it didn't stop me from contributing. And the Fremont troll was pretty cool. We climbed it, got a picture and said, "Cool." Then we walked, and that was my favorite thing we did together. Walking Seattle, the Board Walk, Pike's Market, downtown Tacoma, the bridge, Emily's neighborhood, the dock - walking and simply enjoying being with each other. Oh but I really liked the Ferris Wheel too, those things are sweet. Any direction you look is fascinating. Whether it's back at the city, scanning the sky scrapers and seeing the different styles of buildings. Whether it's viewing the wharfs and the major cranes and freighters carrying products all over the world. Whether it's at your friends laughing and smiling. Or whether its watching the machine itself flowing in a perfect rotation. Then of course there's the water to view and  the light of the sun moving in delicate ripples on the waves. We ended our trip with more walking, some talking, and a movie and junk food. Lovely, lovely, lovely. Kathleen and I left and settled ourselves for the long drive home.

And I was looking forward to the quiet of the small town. To seeing TJ and talking to him. To making myself a good, healthy meal. I was looking forward to brown and sunshiny Shelby, Montana.

One of my favorites. 

Mount Reindeer.

TJ's livelihood - grain elevator!

Kylie, Emily, Me, Kathleen (bad lighting)

Dome shaped nachos!!

Legendary Donuts

Pike's Market!

The Flowers!

In front of the first Starbucks, we had to make it a little more exciting than it was. 

Nasty wasty gum wall. 

Emily enjoying a fry from the sea food restaurant. 

Kathleen REALLY enjoying the clam chowder from afore mentioned restaurant! Not even a restaurant really, a fryer and a booth to watch them and the market. 

Seattle Skyscrapers from the Ferris Wheel.

Fremont Troll. Cool beans.

Blooming flowers on our walk in Tacoma.

Sunset in Tacoma, last night. 

"TJ, I'm talking to you as I stand in Montana."

I was walking the trail near my house and enjoying the sun on my face and the anticipation of the upcoming road trip to Seattle. I was talking to TJ on the phone as he was seeding. It struck me as rather ridiculous and exciting that I was talking to him while he was seeding and he was only some miles away. How many hours had we talked while he seeded that I was in Michigan, two hours ahead and only able to imagine what it was that he was doing. Now here we were doing the same thing, but I now was on the same soil.

Crazy.

Sometimes I'll have this out-of-body experience and I see myself dating this super-cute farmer, living in my own little house, and working at this sweet library set in a small town with a view of the Rocky Mountains. Is this my life? Was that me that walked all through Shelby and delivered my resume and met random people? Were those my feet that walked the little town of Conrad after I put in my application at the Library and met the singer from the town's play, "Desperate Farm Wives" the night before? Is that my voice I hear introducing myself and telling my story? Do I have a story?

I hear the stories of many people that walk through the library doors. One married and moved from England to Montana when she was eighteen. She survived the Blitz. One has lived in three continents and many different states. One checked out that very book fifty years ago. One suffered cancer, one lost a child, one adopted two children. And on and on - people's lives amaze me.

When I drive home, the mountains behind me stand firm against the blue sky. Just before my car follows the road down into the river bottom, I turn my head to the left and can see TJ's home, lit up by a literal beam of sunlight while the plains around it are darkened by the clouds. Almost everyday, the same.

The gazelles in the road threaten me with their eyes till they recognize the speed and strength of the vehicle and dart away together without looking back. The cows straighten and all eye me without a muscle twitching - but the young calf jumps awkwardly on his legs and runs to his mother.

Is that me learning to dribble a ball and shoot a basket? That is one of TJ's and my favorite things to do at the gym now. We will play a couple of short games (one-on-one) then run and do some weights. His baskets count for one, mine for two. He shows me how to do a lay-up, I keep trying. He packs the ball, I throw it at him. I never realized how tiring short sprints are.

Oftentimes I look around my little home, and thank God for all of my blessings. Full cupboards, a close-knit church, hearing truth every Sunday morning and having a gathering of believers with whom I can fully worship the Lord. I have good people for my friends, a steady and faithful boyfriend, a good job, and seriously on and on. This is my story, and sometimes I don't understand why God has blessed me. Yet just now I remembered, and how cool is this! In Psalm 27 David prays, "lead me in a smooth path." I pray that almost every day and sometimes I've wondered what that means or looks like. Well this is what it looks like! There is no doubt that I am on a path, sometimes a very tricky one to walk, but look at the way God has provided for me! There is nothing that I have need of! There is no want. I have food and a roof and a beautiful kitchen and frozen chicken marinating and I just got to see my friend in Seattle and eat super good ice cream and drive eleven hours with my friend Kathleen and we talked and I have a Bible here and a devotional by Amy Carmichael. There's running water and I have a tea kettle and get this - tons of my favorite kinds of tea in my cupboard! There's even a mini garden growing in my office, a little budding branch that I picked from my tree in the backyard, sitting by my stove. My car is running so well. The battery was dead today and I couldn't get a hold of TJ, but my neighbor came over and in ten minutes it was solved. And he gave me a case of blueberries. Blueberry pancakes is on the menu. That's another thing, I have flour and can make bread any time I want to. How many people in this world have that privilege? My own washer and dryer in the basement. Most young adults, when they move away for the first time, have to go to a coin laundromat or share with their entire level. God is so good, and He could take away all of that - He could take away this smooth path and He would still be good. Because He doesn't show that He's good through the smooth path He gives us, that's a bonus, He proves that He is good because He hears. He hears when we cry out to Him, He hears when we praise Him. He is good and He knows exactly what I need so I will trust Him, whether I am in the valley of the shadow of death, or on a smooth path.

"Bonnie, today I miss my family."

I can't even tell you what it was that triggered it. Usually it's one of the kids in the library that will do or say something that reminds me of Barrett's drools and chubby cheeks. Or a little boy's imagination that didn't quite match William's, or someone kissing and squeezing and laughing over their five-month old daughter. Then I'll think about the family gathering or my Mom sitting there waiting for me to call and wishing I could just play Go-Scrabble with her. Or seeing a dad lean down and hug his little girl and sometimes I do feel very thin. Not thin like I've lost weight, but thin like there isn't anything tight around me - there isn't a hug there. Gosh this sounds super depressing. But maybe there are just days when there is that feeling.

Whatever triggered the feeling, I was sitting upstairs in the library on my lunch break, reading, and I just had that feeling.

I get it sometimes, not all the time. And when I get it I can usually just "take it one day at a time," and work through the rest of the day pushing it to the back of my mind. Then there are those times when I don't really know why but the lump in my throat seems to translate immediately to - "I have to decide." Well, kinda personal for a blog, but doesn't that just suck? I mean, yeah I'm not claiming to be the only person that's ever had to do this, but that doesn't mean it doesn't suck. How can I be so happy and content one hour and then go downstairs to work the next hour and feel compelled to say to my co-worker - "Bonnie, today I miss my family" with a tightness in my throat that I'm just hoping that speaking honestly in that moment will sooth that tightness and make it go away.  And that's just what it is. I miss them. Nothing crazy, I miss them. I just have to swallow that lump and smile at the two-year old boy who wouldn't let me hold him even if I gave him ten suckers and not compare him to Barrett who I would chase around and grab him and spin him and set him down and wait to hear, "'gain" (again). Then I'm ok. But really, I recite Proverbs 3:5-6 over and over and acknowledge God in my pain, in the thinness, in the tightness. And I'm not always ok, but most of the time, I'm at peace and I'm learning that trust is an act of the will. Not a feeling.

And that is my first blog entry after a long period of silence. You'll just have to take my word for it that this is not a depressing time. This is a time of learning, of understanding and it's not always fun. And that's it. But God doesn't change and that is the strongest conclusion there is.

Arrived, Acclimated, Job Searching

I'm not sure how to condense two weeks of small and great adventures, stories and thoughts into a concise blog post. Let me begin by stating how welcomed I have been! From the first day of moving in, friends stopped by to say hello, help me unpack and eat pizza in order that we might make a home in a house.

I did not anticipate that cleaning and organizing and rearranging could be so delightful, but as Mark Twain said of Tom Sawyer,

"If he had been a great and wise philosopher, like the writer of this book, he would now have comprehended that Work consists of whatever a body is obliged to do, and that Play consists of whatever a body is not obliged to do." 

Therefore I have scrubbed my floors, cupboards, stove, microwave, sinks, all the while recognizing what fun it is to watch the dirt fall away and the home take shape. And what a sweet home it is! Lou Ellen (that's my landlord and TJ's mom) updated the house and it has a wonderfully large kitchen with a spacious counter top, a new bathroom, and this sweet little corner of book shelves that follow the stairs to the finished basement. I have been very blessed. Completely furnished and the cupboards were stocked with dishes and pots and pans so that I have been able to explore a new side of living with one self - cooking!

And not just so-called sandwiches. I have actually made two chicken dinners (winner winner both), split pea soup, beef stroganoff, and....salad. I realize of course that listing three dinners is not very impressive in itself, but for me to have pulled out a cookbook, read it, and followed it with a nicely fragrant dish at the end, is nothing short of maturing. I have also made bread with nearly every meal which TJ has kindly requested, as it is still winter time, we cut the carbs short. We have been to the gym a few times and it is so nice to work out with somebody! I have not been pushed since I worked with my brother-in-law.

Anyway, these two weeks have been a time of meeting new people, making new friends, and spending time with old and new friends alike. Every time I go into town, either to buy something or leave a resume, I meet a friendly face and have a unique interaction. One time I was looking for wax beans for a recipe and could not find them. I asked the attendant that was stacking the shelves and had not realized that he was deaf. Well, he had me write down "wax beans" on the cardboard and looked high and low for them. Finally, when it was clear they were not on hand, he wrote,

 "Open beans, then light candle." 

He laughed heartily at his joke, and I thought him quite a clever man. 

As for a job, well I am hoping to hear something today, but we shall see. I left my resume at every financial institution, because that is what I have recently had experience in. No one is hiring, but I did not expect any place to be. I spoke with the school for a Teacher's Assistant job or subbing. There are two main jobs that I hope to hear back either today or sometime this week. The one is in Conrad (about twenty to thirty minutes away) and is an Assistant Director at their library. I do like the sound of it, but we shall see! The other is a Dental Assistant position at the local Medical Center. Both have the same starting wages, are full time, and come with benefits. Yet I have heard from neither so that is all I shall say for those.

Some of my highlights have been working on the ranch for two days, attempting to give blood, watching a girls high school basketball game, church, and Valentines Day. Those are all little stories that I don't believe I will bother my readers with at present, but suffice it to say that this has been a time of conquering fears (small and big), of trying new things, of deepening relationships, and of trying to keep up with all these fast-paced small town Montanans!

I believe that is all that I have for the present, thank you for those that are praying for me and for those that have given of their time and money to help make this Little Blue House a home. My sister, cousins, Aunt, Mom, Dad (especially this guy, not only did he nurse me back to health after the road trip stomach flu, wash all my windows, bought me all my first groceries and cleaning supplies, but was also such a wonderful support and friend for my first few days here) and friends have sent things like candles, mugs, calendars, pictures, books, christmas lights, practical tools, switch plates and light bulbs. The people here in Montana have been generous with food, trash cans, pots and pans, dishes, time, and kindness. God is faithful and His mercies are new every morning!

Moving to Montana

Well my bags are packed, I'm ready to go.

This move has been in discussion and prayer for over half a year and it is now taking shape in my too many boxes and bags. I am moving because a couple of years ago I met this pretty cool guy named TJ. And this guy is a farmer in Montana. After about a year of talking we decided that in order to pursue this as a serious relationship it would be best for me to move out there. I have decided that I would like to see what a Montana life is like before I would make any great decisions.

Therefore, though I've never been a regular blogger, I hope to change my ways and post on a semi-regular basis of the happenings in this adventure.  I have many friends and family that I hope to keep in contact with, but will at least be able to provide some sporadic stories and updates through this.

The Farmer in Montana Named TJ

I have had many questions tossed at me so I have caught them and laid them out here with answers which I hope will satisfy. If there are any questions still though, don't hesitate to ask me!



Do you have a job out there? 
          Nope, not yet. TJ has been keeping his eyes and ears open for me and I will begin looking more actively when I am out there. I have built my resume and submitted it to a few places, but will hope for better returns once I can hand it in in person. God provides. :)

Where will you be staying? 
          I will be renting a sweet Little Blue House in town, a walk from the tennis courts and about two hours from the nearest Sam's Club.

Do you like it out there?
          I have only visited for four days before, what I saw I did like, but that is also why I am going out there. I generally love every place I go to though!

How often will you visit?
         I wish I could say. It is difficult having an idea without having a job. I have a friend getting married in New York in the fall and hope to make that an extended visit but that is completely up in the air.

Will you be continuing your education? 
           At this point, no. The only time I ever truly considered pursuing a Master's was in Israel and I had a dream to study Biblical Archaeology at Hebrew University. I soon realized that following semester that I had an interest, but not a passion strong enough to cause me to go over seas for two years for a Master's degree that could only be used over there. I still do have an interest in Biblical Archaeology though, so we shall see if anything will come of that, maybe nothing, maybe something.

How long are you planning on being out there? What does "an extended period of time" mean?
          Good question! It means that I will be out there for a good length of time up to a year.

What things are you taking with you? 
          I am taking my clothes, pictures, some of my wall decorations, and some books. And you would not believe how much stuff all that is too!

Are you scared? Are you excited? Are you sad?
         I am all sorts of things! And everyday is different, but I cling to the solid Rock, who is never changing. So yes, I get scared about some things for sure! I have never lived away from home, barely know how to make a full dinner, and will be living in a different culture! And of course I am excited! I have never lived away from home, learning to make a full dinner, and will be living in a different culture! And I will get to see TJ at least once a week! I like to travel and experience new things and yet I hate to leave home and those I love. Therefore, there are things I am sad about. I love my family very much. I am disappointed that I cannot pack up my nephews into a suitcase and bring my niece in a bag with their stuffed animals to Montana. I wish I could detach my brothers' and my sister's home from the ground and cart them along to explore the wild west along with me. I would love to take my parents in hand and give them mountain front property singing Hakuna Matata all the way. Yet this is an adventure that I am to take on my own, and I will accept that with full confidence in the One who is giving it to me.

Is there anything you need?
          Prayers please, and that would be the kindest thing you could do for me.


With that, I shall end this public declaration of my biggest adventure yet! I hope that this has been informational and at least semi-interesting. I say good bye to those I won't have a chance to see before I leave!

I stole this from Google. 

                                                                                Psalm 27

              An Exuberant Declaration of Faith

             A Psalm of David.

The Lord is my light and my salvation;

Whom shall I fear?

The Lord is the strength of my life;

Of whom shall I be afraid?

When the wicked came against me

To eat up my flesh,

My enemies and foes,

They stumbled and fell.

Though an army may encamp against me,

My heart shall not fear;

Though war may rise against me,

In this I will be confident.

One thing I have desired of the Lord,

That will I seek:

That I may dwell in the house of the Lord

All the days of my life,

To behold the beauty of the Lord,

And to inquire in His temple.

For in the time of trouble

He shall hide me in His pavilion;

In the secret place of His tabernacle

He shall hide me;

He shall set me high upon a rock.

And now my head shall be lifted up above my enemies all around me;

Therefore I will offer sacrifices of joy in His tabernacle;

I will sing, yes, I will sing praises to the Lord.

Hear, O Lord, when I cry with my voice!

Have mercy also upon me, and answer me.

When You said, “Seek My face,”

My heart said to You, “Your face, Lord, I will seek.”

Do not hide Your face from me;

Do not turn Your servant away in anger;

You have been my help;

Do not leave me nor forsake me,

O God of my salvation.

When my father and my mother forsake me,

Then the Lord will take care of me.

Teach me Your way, O Lord,

And lead me in a smooth path, because of my enemies.

Do not deliver me to the will of my adversaries;

For false witnesses have risen against me,

And such as breathe out violence.

I would have lost heart, unless I had believed

That I would see the goodness of the Lord

In the land of the living.

Wait on the Lord;

Be of good courage,

And He shall strengthen your heart;

Wait, I say, on the Lord!